"This blog contains some of the stitches being sewn in our living tapestry." Welcome to this blog. The above quote is what this space was. For many years I felt deeply and with conviction that the tapestry of our lives was unfolding in a direction. Our Tapestry threads have bee pulled out and are being reworked to shape a very different picture from the one I imagined.
Sunday, November 9, 2025
Threads explained
Threads in solidarity
Wednesday, October 15, 2025
Digging beneath each thread
Imagine if your life, beliefs and existence was reduced to headlines and comments. Imagine if something huge had happened to you, possibly the greatest action ever AND a world first and you were boxed by headlines and comments.
This is , of course , something that happens on a daily bases to those who reach the headlines at all. But it is worth a little thought and a pause when we consider the newly appointed Archbishop of Canterbury, the first women to take on this position, ever. The year is 2025. In the early 1900 , women in Britain fought for the rights of women to be able to vote. Interesting is it not that the public actions of the Suffragette movement, created awareness significantly enough that this essential right was won. Women were allowed to be elected as members to parliament in 1928. This Archbishop of Canterbury will be the first women to do this again , as Archbishop, in 2025.
As I scanned the headlines and comments sections of the stories or statements given about Sarah Mullally, appointment, it struck me how each one framed her appointment .
" Sarah Mullally becomes first women Archbishop of Canterbury amid ongoing Anglican disputes over same sex marriage"
" Nigerian Anglican communion opposes leftward drift ....."
" First female Archbishop criticized for being pro-abortion..."
'Historic Archbishop appointment divides Anglicans"
" Conservatives church group condemns the choice...."
" Women named as first Archbishop..."
"First women archbishop .... can't preside over communion of hundreds of churches"
" Appointment of New Archbishop continues the tragic slide into irrelevances"
Scathing in general and very painful to digest. I find the framing and wording issued by many who object and reject her appointment deeply problematic. These views clearly do not reflect my own as a follower of Jesus and nor, do I believe , they reflect the heart and purpose of God and the church.
" Patriarchal interpretations of the bible fail to start at the beginning. " Lisa Sharon Harper , The Very Good Gospel . Do I think this is purposeful? If I am honest, yes.
Beth Alison Barr's book is a beautiful unpacking of this story. I am not going to write about this book here but except to say, read it. And not with the mind to critic it but to learn from it.
The most infuriating thing is that the excluding and demeaning of women to the notion of equality in roles h seeks to exclude half humanity represented in the church. Women are thought of as different and other in this patriarchal view of the bible. Just look at the framing of the headlines and a brief scanning of the articles in question.
But who exactly is this new archbishop?
Who exactly is Sarah Mullally? This for me is the question. What does she think, breath , desire and work for ?
Lets hear from her should we?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dVKmd4xulDc
The history of the Church Of England with regard to women is very interesting and is upacked helpfully in this quick video below.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uE5BdB7hJ08
I listened to a conservative reform view of this appointment which I am not sharing here.It was very revealing. woman in this important church leadership position was extremely revealing. The minister came across as caring less about the new archbishop being a woman and more about her views on gender # Queerness and, of course, the old nemesis , abortion. I think he was not entirely honest here because it is precisely because a woman has been appointed to this position that they fear what follows on. For, a conservative reform woman would never put her hand up for such a "role" she understands here place. Interestingly , this is what 2 ministers in the SA context have said out loud. Here is the paraphrase of both. - We can't ordain women. It is a slippery slope and the next thing we will be allowing "gays" in. I will pause here for a moment for the reader to digest this.
The church claims NOT to be a political beast but when we scratch a little of the surface or when a women is selected for such a powerful position we forget all the "for such a time as this" stuff and see how truly political the church is. We also see the very essence of reform theology exposed.
The notion that God has spoken and does speak and will speak into the future - in exactly the same way for all people over all the world at all times in the same way makes no sense at all. This is about theology which I have explored I previous post on Threads. But it is also about emphasis. Where do I, as a Christ follower who reads the bible in a very small and systematic way put my focus?
For some reformers it is on Gods wrath and judgement with a shake of his love and for others it lands more heavily on the love of God. Even this subtle emphasis will influence how faith works out in life.
Of course I am giving a small taste of a much larger conversation but it is THE conversation for the a part of the church in 2025. Notice what is missing from this conversation? Issues of justice and injustice; how the powerful rule; what poverty looks like in 2025 including - homelessness, the aged , food security and sovereignty and all this without stepping towards the important issues of racial inequality, racism, restitution and land. What of climate change and climate migration? What about systems that are failing us or corrupting . What about GBV. These important issues and they are no where to be seen. These issues are absent from the churches agenda despite the obvious nature of these playing out in the world. The "simply" or simplified gospel will work no matter the issue is the thinking. Simply tell people about Jesus and their need for him and changed lives will solve all issues. Unless, of course, it is gender and queerness or , abortion AND both of THESE issues begin and end with the ordination of ..... women. The slippery slope. The ridiculousness all of this is glaringly evident even as a write these words down.
It would seem that there are 2 completely different churches and two completely different purposes or understanding of the church. One that is eating itself from within over cultural issues like to queer people have a place in Gods kingdom on earth, as queer people and should women be given equality, true equality under it's roof . It is easy to see how the reform church people loved and followed the figure of Charlie Kirk. He represented their narrow selective culture "war" issues. The things that have been chosen as the church's foundational gospel issues, for now AND on which they can easily "discern" and mold who is a "real' christian and who is not.
I still my anger and cynicism of church as an institution with the reminder that God loves people. That he does. Christian people may not show to people but that does not change the truth that God does love people. The outcast and marginalised . Those who are powerless. I do believe that Sarah Mullally is placed " for such a time as this"
Tuesday, October 14, 2025
Gender threads
It is with deep sorrow and yet not surprise that I read the following message from this denomination in SA
South Africa, after a friend sent it my way. Why am I sharing this or even feel the need to comment on such a statement? This is indeed the question. I think it is in part because for years and years , I too sat "under" this diabolical and oppressive way of viewing life with Jesus and feel so angry and sad for all the thousands and thousands of people who somehow think that this way of seeing gifted women leaders is the way God wanted people to live out life on this earth. The church, in this framing , is not a place for women to fully flourish and be who God has made them to be. What we find is that these gifted women find homes in leadership outside the church where they can fully flourish and live authentically. How sad is this. How sad too is it that men , in these spaces, continue to surrender to the patriarchal way which IS the world and which they claim to be so radical in. There is nothing radical about elevating men over women and calling in freedom in Christ. There is nothing liberating to find here. It is as the world is. This framing of "roles' of men and women as something that is equal never made any sense to me because it just was not true. Rather it is a place where men flourish and " rule" and women just don't.
There is a very strange idea in these spaces, that somehow gifted, free and liberated women would look at this version of the church and see Jesus and more than that, want to join. Why would they?
Dame Sarah Mullally will no doubt need and covet prayer and yet not the kind that these Christians offer. I am thrilled that a women has been appointed as of Archbishop Canterbury. She can do no more harm than the last few men, who knowing about the abuse of boys that was happening in Southern Africa and then Cape Town , SA, did nothing. I wonder if this denom had anything public on this website to say about that story ? I know that she is more than able to honour Jesus, uphold his word and proclaim the gospel for none of that is dependant on gender. Duh? "
We continue to pray for the Church of England and the wider Anglican Communion that Christ would be honoured, His Word upheld, and His gospel proclaimed to every nation."
Deep and sorrowful indeed.
"With deep sorrow and concern, we have noted the appointment of the Bishop of London, Dame Sarah Mullally, as the Archbishop of Canterbury on 3 October 2025.
While this development does not directly affect the Reformed Evangelical Anglican Church of South Africa (REACH-SA), we recognise its importance within the wider
Anglican Communion. REACH SA holds a different theological conviction regarding the role of women in the presbyterate, shaped by our understanding of Scripture and long-standing Evangelical heritage. Nevertheless, we acknowledge the weight of this appointment and its symbolic significance for many within the Communion.
We are mindful that the Archbishop of Canterbury serves as a spiritual leader and shepherd of what is often called the “Mother Church.” Therefore, it is natural that
such developments evoke reflection and concern among those who hold to our faiths historic, biblical convictions.
The Anglican Communion continues to wrestle with questions surrounding faith, order, abuse, and human sexuality, and we pray that ongoing dialogue across provinces will be marked by grace, truth, and a renewed commitment to the authority of God’s Word.
We continue to pray for the Church of England and the wider Anglican Communion that Christ would be honoured, His Word upheld, and His gospel proclaimed to every nation."
Tuesday, October 7, 2025
Threads and dates
Local threads connected to the land
Sunday, October 5, 2025
When threads stretch across the ocean
South African evangelicals are influenced by and linked to evangelical movements around the world but especially in The UK, Australia and the USA.
These movements are linked. Books from these shores are sold in Christian book shops. Sermons are listened to. Bible studies are enjoyed. For years, I belonged to a bible study where we "did" Beth Moore studies all the way from USA. Her work books and DVD available in our local Christian book shops.
Movements like "focus on the Family" are followed and books written by American white people are devoured on marriage and hw to be a christian Parent.
In 2020 - that year - This powerful and exposing book came out.
When Kirsten du Mez Book, "Jesus and John Wayne", of course I read it. I could not put it down. It is a painful and exposing read.
There is a lot to say on this but, primarily I would encourage anyone interested to read this book above and then watch this documentary linked below. How Evangelicals influence the US foreign policy in the Middle East.
I was given these yesterday and have devoured them. They are truly frightening.
https://youtu.be/IhT7oyDlBIk?si=KRbDqkfMSg1W_aZY
https://youtu.be/_iQhbcOgfqw?si=bwNKUYPZ5g_Ae0ju
Now Evangelical Christians in SA would say, well we dont believe THIS, Caren. Well, don't you? You defend Israel with your silence and speak prayers for Charlie Kirk who is a character involved in this evangelical project. You argue a case for him and for Trump as Christian and even f you suspect he is slightly distasteful , you continue to hold that "he is God's man" .You support and argue for the all the ideas and voting points that the right stand for and you stand against all the same points. You argue, publicly for the right to bare arms despite not even living in the USA. Your fruit is linked to this movements understanding of the bible. Though you may be loosely tethered, the SA evangelicals church is tethered none the less. This is a hard truth to face. It is even more difficult for the church in SA to unhook itself from all this horror.
Some are attempting this. It is tough and brave. It is happening but, sadly, not enough.
We are watching, in real time, the United States Of America become a theocracy. Freedoms are being eroded from the precious right to speak up against those who are in power which is the true reason we have this freedom and the right to read what one would like to read. The right to live in freedom under the law is a precious and fought for right and under a theocracy these rights are simply taken away. Like in any theocracy no matter the religion that informs it, people will like in fear. Honestly, they should.
For those who aplaude the Charlie Kirks of this world, for steering young people towards this way of understanding how Jesus shows up in this world. Shame on you. Jesus said, when he was dying, " forgive them ... for they do not know what they are doing." Indeed. we are here again.
Saturday, October 4, 2025
We wove new threads
https://open.spotify.com/show/191SG1iIRUpFKy3PFzlRdZ?si=bbca512261dd43e9
After 2020, my friend Hayley and I began a podcast. We called it The Meeting Room after the group of women who were meeting each month to discuss racism in the SA context. The aim of the podcast was to have conversations that count especially in the post Apartheid SA context.
Sadly, we have struggled to maintain these podcasts of late but there are some really good interviews for you to dive into.
The Arch
Friday, October 3, 2025
As Threads tighten
In the following posts, I am going to share some of the giants of our faith and those who have and continue to shape how we as followers of Christ are invited into the work of liberation and justice for all people. Little did I know the profound depth of this work that was and continues to happen in South Africa and indeed the world. Adam Russel Taylors article below, of which I have copied some of it and provided a link to all of it, fills in gaps AND speaks of some of the links between the USA and SA of which I have spoken in previous posts.
The legacy of this movement of God in South Africa is held in the icon of Desmond Tutu and I will write a post on his life and the beautiful foundation which anyone who comes to SA really should visit. However tis movement was bigger than one person and Tutu himself would assert that too. When I became a Christ follower, I entered into the church as an activist. It was the tail end of the viscous Apartheid regime. Yes, we were in the death throws but all powerful regimes in the throw of death behave most cruelly and viscously . South Africa was no different.
When I entered the church space, I looked around for fellow activists and found very few. This one dear friend is still my fellow sojourner. I love her dearly. I concluded that activism was outside of the church. This church was silent on injustice. I have learnt that these were the silent church's. They continue to remain silent, speaking out a prayer for Charlie Kirk- I kid you not- while saying absolutely nothing on the genocide of thousands of Palestinians. The but is, there were many who were not silent and are not even today. They raise the prophetic voice and call out an new prophetic imagination - the notion of which Walter Bruggerman was the creator of.
Be inspired fellow sojourner. This is deeply exciting.
The Kairos moment is now.
We Aren’t the First Christians To Face a Kairos Moment
"I first learned about the theological concept of kairos while studying abroad in Cape Town, South Africa in 1996. South African faith leaders taught me that, as compared to chronos, or time as we know it and traditionally experience it, kairos moments are precipitated by times in which our current reality becomes so pernicious and fraudulent that God can create a moment of opportunity for propitious action and transformation. "
The word Kairos is a greek word and it means the right or critical time.
"We are not the first nation or the first Christians to face a kairos moment. In July 1985, South Africa was in an even deeper crisis. The apartheid government had declared a state of emergency and dramatically escalated mass detentions, repression, and state violence while cracking down on the media. Despite growing international opposition, the apartheid state was doubling down on its repression. Many church leaders in South Africa, especially in the Dutch Reformed Church, misused and weaponized the Bible to justify the apartheid system of racial separation and oppression. Meanwhile, many other Christians remained silent and complacent in the face of increasing repression, staying on the sidelines of the anti-apartheid struggle. "
What was the response of the church in SA?
A group of South African church leaders......
"In response, a group of South African church leaders, theologians, and Christian activists gathered to pen the Kairos Document, an open-ended document of faith-inspired resistance to apartheid. Its authors critiqued “state theology,” which they defined as Christianity that justifies “the status quo with its racism, capitalism, and totalitarianism” and “blesses injustice, canonizes the will of the powerful and reduces the poor to passivity, obedience, and apathy.” They also critiqued factions of the church who accepted the argument that the South African government’s repression was justified to maintain law and order, as well as those within the church who pleaded for racial reconciliation without first attending to injustice."
That was then. What of the now? We have several Kairos moments right now.
"I recently joined an intergenerational group of South African and global Christian leaders in Cape Town to mark the 40th anniversary of the Kairos Document and the inflection moment it created for Christians in South Africa and beyond to make a clearer choice between upholding the oppressive status quo or more actively and courageously working to end the system of apartheid. In the four decades since, this groundbreaking document also inspired similar documents from Christians in Central America, Europe, India, Kenya, Malawi, Palestine, and Zimbabwe who called their fellow Christians to take decisive action. While listening to the reflections from South African Christian leaders, I was deeply moved by just how many parallels there are between what they faced under apartheid in 1985 and what we in the U.S. face today amid growing authoritarianism."
Though the two nations and the struggles we face are not identical, I see echoes of South Africa as the MAGA movement and Trump administration stoke fears around crime, immigration, and public safety as a pretense to undermine the rule of law, consolidate power, seek vengeance on their perceived enemies, and squash dissent. The Kairos Document critiqued a government that “will not allow anyone to question what it has chosen to define as ‘law and order’” and demonized its opponents as “communists.” In a similar vein, the Trump administration regularly delegitimizes its opponents as “the radical Left” or “the lunatic Left.”
"And much like the authors of the Kairos Document, many of us today grapple with the unwillingness of American Christians to condemn the false gospel of Christian nationalism. This ideology fuels the MAGA movement with heretical ideas about American exceptionalism, white supremacy, patriarchy, and xenophobia, often alleging that the “true” or “real” Christians are those who must protect their faith by imposing their ideology on others."
"The biblical prophets knew something about what it means to identify and speak out in such moments. Prophets like Amos, the herdsman and sycamore-fig pruner, saw the oppression of the poorest members of society while the wealthy classes prospered. He witnessed people’s greed, their complacency, reliance on military might, social injustices, immorality, and shallow piety. And he spoke truth to power, condemning the injustice of the status quo while proclaiming a more righteous and hopeful alternative. He warned that “the prudent keep silent in such times, for the times are evil (5:13),” yet he was anything but prudent. He made it crystal clear that God demanded a radical change in the status quo:
Seek good, not evil, that you may live. Then the Lord God Almighty will be with you, just as you say he is. Hate evil, love good; maintain justice in the courts. [...] Away with the noise of your songs! I will not listen to the music of your harps. But let justice roll on like a river, righteousness like a never-failing stream! (5:14-15, 23-24).
"In our present moment, we need to model the prophetic witness of Amos in response to God’s kairos. Yet a new statement won’t be sufficient on its own. Putting prophetic ideas on paper gives language to what our hearts already know but may not have words for; statements can persuade those who have not yet thought deeply about these matters to reflect and repent. But statements have the most power when they motivate faithful and courageous action in those who truly hear and internalize them.
The South African Kairos Document ends with an emphasis on the “need to transform church activities” to bolster the struggle against apartheid.
"As important as political engagement will be in the next few years, we can’t expect politicians or political parties to save us. Instead, we must dig deeper in our faith, putting our ultimate trust in a God who, as our Lord and Liberator, can make all things new. Reversing our slide into authoritarianism will require faith-inspired courage to engage in greater nonviolent resistance, replacing the unjust status quo with the Beloved Community and its promise of an inclusive multiracial democracy that truly fulfills the promise of liberty and justice for all."
Tuesday, September 30, 2025
Rethreading
Sunday, September 28, 2025
Threads connect
For the first 2 years or so , we read Sharlene Swartz's , Another Country. This book was pivotal in setting the context of South Africa today within the history of our country too. My friend Hayley and I facilitated this group and for these few years we ran monthly workshops linked to themes that the book sparked. We visited museums and restaurant's as well as invited guest speakers to run workshops too. This was designed to be a safe and precious brave space and has landed up being a community f women who encourage one another to keep going.
There are many things I love about this group. One of them is their commitment to the process. This was NO small thing. We had some very difficult unlearnings to have and then we need ed to build a new way of seeing . In the beginning this was incredibly delicate and painful. I am in awe of these women. They kept showing up and kept reading. They sat through the difficult truths and realisations. They kept on coming back. And slowly, change happened. We all grew in the understanding of our racist thinking and we all continued to unpick and unpack. It was rich and beautiful and reflected something of the work that could have been in many church spaces. We did it. I am super proud of this work and of these wonderful women. They are each a true hero.
The space has changed and grown and we continue to meet and are reading some new books together. Conversations keep us going and challenged and include, often times the wider white supremacist framing world wide. Looking back at some of the ideas we all held and how we have changed our minds n so many of these, I am really left feeling deeply privileged at this journey together.
The difficult parts and times included some of the push back we received from christians. Go figure? If you spend any time with black people both in and out the church and listen with openness you will quickly see that this antiracist work is essential. It is fundamental. It is necessary. Claiming unity that does not exist and diversity that is full of token representation while whiteness lives on is blind, dishonest and dangerous. Rainbowism and "Christian unity" are cut from the same cloth. These are hopeful ideals for a future. I long for these too but they are simply NOT the present reality. They just are not.
The Meeting Room recorded two or three seasons of a podcast by the same name. Check these out for some honest reflections in the post apartheid SA context.
Saturday, September 27, 2025
Threads expose themselves
I have debated with myself if whether writing this post, is of any use. It is of use to me.
It serves as a record lest I or those who come after me, forget.
This post holds the countless stories exposed , although the details and truth of them must remain silent. Why? Because I hold my humanity as something sacred and refuse to become that which I abhor. It would be easy for me to explain the details. After all hardly anyone reads this blog. That is also ok. This is written down as a record.
"Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.” —Philippians 2:3
This is an interesting verse. It is one that I have seen in reverse action ,again and again as leaders from many different denominations jostled and continue to jostle and plot so that selfish ambition rules.
Do these very same leaders who 'teach' Gods word not believe it themselves?
We seem to see that they do not.
- Blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord (Psalm 40:4–5)
and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways submit to him,
and he will make your paths straight.[ - Proverbs 3
Family threads
I wrote a great deal, over the years , about our family. Of course I did. Who would not have. The long pause has created a space where they have each been suspended in time , as they were when I stopped writing. I want to write a little about what each is up to at present and also what their journey to this point was.
These are broad brushstrokes of a mother and from a mothers perspective and are in now way the full story. That story belongs to them.
James is 25 years old and is finishing up his masters in engineering at UCT. This is his marvelous girl friend Toni. They are super sweet together and really bring out the best in one another.
Sam, below is finishing off his degree at Film school - AFDA. He is flourishing and blooming in all things film and sound. A world of this art is opening up to us all.
Thomas and Jethro below. Tom is 24 and Jet is 19. Thomas is finishing off his honours year at Michaelis school of fine art at UCT. He no longer lives at home and we love that he is flying but miss him deeply.
Jethro is at UCT in his first your of computer business studies. He completed his high school at the marvelous and wonderful Cedar House and Jet has an extraordinary group of wonderful friends. We are all richer for having them in our lives.