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And so I write .....
From the TED talk by Brene' Brown on being vulnerable and on shame I come away with these few ideas, milling about my thinking.
On being vulnerable, she speaks of those who are able to explore and risk being vulnerable from a point of strength. Those who have a deep understanding that they are worthy of being loved and of belonging seem to find vulnerability easy and in being vulnerable find deep connection with others.
Those who operate from a more broken base in regard to belonging and worthy of love, find being vulnerable illusive and so feel disconnected from fellow human beings.
I simplify her argument and studies but in doing so find that the simple clarifies some of the questions I have had around people being disconnected, even in the setting of church, where we are all called to love one another very deeply from the heart and carry one anothers burdens.
I think some of us have not grasped the real belonging we have in Jesus and so with God the father. He has totally accepted us in Christ and we are secure in his love. We have belonging and he has made us worthy of his love. He loved us totally and fully at the cross.
If we grasp this we can begin from a base of security to be vulnerable with one another,
and in so doing, we can be truly connected to one another.
A barrier to this kind of vulnerability is trust and what Brown calls shame. To trust that the hearer will not quickly box and judge is a risk. The shame we call out to ourselves is often also a real block to us truly sharing with another - our struggles, trials, temptations, hurts and hopes.
To never truly be vulnerable is to not truly connect as human beings.
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