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If you were to ask me to describe what it is like to be married to someone with ADHD, I can do that.
If you ask me what it is like to have children with ADHD, well, I can do that too.
I can describe the fun things like the continuous chatter and questioning that comes from the moment that the day begins. I can describe the extremely loud singing and loud thumping that pours from the room as the day begins. I can tell you about the great excitement and spontaneity that accompanies so many fun times. I would share with you the stuck in the moment times; the chaos; the frustration at life and the 100 of times I have heard " I am bored" when there is so much to choose to do.
There are times when distraction rules and other times when impulsively is the boss and still others when hyperactivity is the" main man".
But, what I want to share today was something that just broke my mothers heart.
You see, yesterday I asked my 11 year old son this question.
I asked him ," what does it feel like to be ADHD?"
He began to cry and as the tears rolled down his face he told me about his day. He had been so bored at school ( and for those who know being bored for ADHD people is like torture). He explained that because he was bored be began to plan and think about his Afrikaans oral and making a Wolf mask ( which was what he was doing now). He had loved to plan it and was looking forward to making it but now as he actually made it the frustration of the task was just to much and he hated it all.
I could feel the struggle. I could literally feel it as he stood next to me and cried.
My heart broke.
And yet, this morning he got up with a bounce in his step. Yesterday was behind him and today stretched ahead. He has learnt to have hooks that he can hook good experiences onto. Mainly these have to do with being active and moving. I am so grateful that he loves sport and is good at it.
I know that if I ask him the same question today . " what does it feel like to be ADHD?", he will say something else.
Being a mom with an ADHD family is both exhilarating and extremely stressful. I know I am not supposed to say this but I do. I also know that God does not make mistakes and that his grace is sufficient. So today with a very heavy heart and physically exhausted, I once again stretch out my hand and place it into Jesus' hand.
And press on......
